During the Holiday’s, don’t hurt the poor…A Call for Pastor’s and Church Leaders

Thanksgiving and Christmas are quickly approaching. It’s an exciting time of the year. Imagining gifts, food, friends and family. It’s a great time for many people. Many families have different traditions that involve some type of service to the poor. As well many churches and ministries have programs that are centralized on giving freely to the poor.

homelessforchristmas.comI have helped and orchestrated many different gift drives and turkey giveaways. I’ve always enjoyed being apart of them. It makes me feel good to give to people who need it. But one thing I have noticed is that I walk in to these events feeling excited and leave feeling somewhat uneasy.

I remember how frustrated I was finding out that many of the recipients of the gift drive were 3rd and 4th generations of recipients. I would carry Turkey’s and christmas gifts to brand new cars that caused me to wonder how someone in need could have a way nicer car then myself. I would experience the chaos and division seen between the “haves” and “have nots”. I started leaving these events more disturbed then encouraged. Then I would goto food pantries and clothing closets and I would leave feeling the same way as the holiday give-aways, disturbed.

Collecting rooms full of toys and games that were to be given to the poor feels good.  Giving a turkey out for Thanksgiving seems nice. Handing out canned goods causes many to feel happy about themselves. But eventually one must look at this large collection of belongings and question who recieves the glory in these programs. Is it God or is it all the people who have defined their generosity with this pile of things.

What is it like for the father who comes home to find his kids have toys for christmas and he didn’t do anything about it. He feels shame. He feels somewhat bitter about those who gave the toys and he is disgraced.

I am not against christmas gifts. I am all for getting gifts for my family and helping see other families have the capacity to do so. My problem is that in the process of our charity, we many times hurt those we are trying to help.

Pastors and Church Leaders, as our churches begin to use this time of year to show compassion to the less fortunate, we must ask a few questions.

1) Is our program or event weakening those we are serving?

2)Is it fostering dishonest relationships?

3) Is it deepening dependency?

4) Is it eroding recipients’ work ethic?

(Questions from Bob Lupton’s “Toxic Charity”)

I would like to challenge Pastors and Church Leaders to start asking these hard questions and have a Vision to do greater things. Greater doesn’t mean neccesarily spend more money. Envision reaching the poor in the community spending less money while putting in more time for relationships. I know, you’re salivating. This is what pastor’s love. I’d love to see churches using their resources to serve the poor in ways that build healthy relationships and not rob the dignity of those who already can feel weak.

It takes a decision to change things. Start asking the hard questions about whether or not our program is effective. Then after that start brainstorming about ways to do programs that are relationship focused. Seek to do things that empower the poor. Walk alongside them and strategize for them to become more self sustaining. Help them purchase gifts. Help them purchase turkeys.

“Giving to those in need what they could be gaining from their own initiative may well be the kindest way to destroy people.”

-Toxic Charity

For more information, Check out:
Toxic Charity by Robert Lupton

When Helping Hurts by Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert

4 responses to “During the Holiday’s, don’t hurt the poor…A Call for Pastor’s and Church Leaders

  1. Help them serve others.

  2. I appreciate your heart to seek how to really address the continuous issues that are heavily among generous social organizations. The heavily influences that these organizations have on the poor is outstanding but are we seeing genuine relationships that are walking and living life with them. It seems the easier job is to get volunteers but the challenge is to actually participate with life to life challenges. This individuality life to life method will help to put to use effective critical ways to pour into the area that the individual is struggling with daily. It is harder and takes more time than a annually give to the hunger programs. Great Article!

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